examples of who and WHAt i can help with

 Are you carrying your difficulties in silence, ashamed of your feelings, and feel that it's embarrassing or 'weak' to seek help?

Anger and emotional overwhelm
You don’t need to carry the weight of unresolved frustration, which can often be expressed as anger. Whether it’s blow-ups in relationships, at work, or within yourself, I work with men to understand the root causes of anger, shift patterns, and develop healthier ways to express emotions without feeling like you’re losing control.

Relationship issues
If you’re dealing with recurring struggles or patterns in your personal relationships—whether it’s with a partner, family members, or colleagues—let’s explore what’s behind those patterns. Together, we’ll work on communication (including with yourself), understanding, and building healthier connections, so you can experience the trust and intimacy you want and deserve.

Feeling lost or lacking in purpose
It’s easy to get stuck in a rut. You might be successful on the outside, but inside, there’s a sense of something missing, or of not being enough, however much you do or achieve. If you’re questioning your direction, passions, or life goals, we can work together to reignite your sense of purpose and create a meaningful - and achievable - path forward. And help you develop a sense of contentment and peace.

Stress and overwhelm
Life can feel overwhelming, especially with competing demands, such as work, family, health - and everything in between. Stress can build up until it feels like too much. We can work on developing some practical tools and also allow space to process the feelings, so you'll feel more grounded in the midst of the busyness of life.

You don’t have to do this alone. Together, we’ll tackle the issues that are affecting your well-being, helping you reconnect with yourself, improve your relationships, and regain a sense of purpose. 

Have you or are you experiencing grief, without realising it?  

We can feel loss and grief in relation to many things as well as the death of a person; for example the loss of a much loved pet, loss of opportunity, redundancy, the ending of a relationship or friendship and loss of physical ability or ill-health. 

The emotions of grief and loss

The obvious emotion is sadness, but did you know anger can also be associated with grief? So can feelings of anxiety, confusion, denial, relief, numbness, exhaustion...the list goes on. If you are overwhelmed by grief, I can help hold space for you, allowing you to unpack and explore all that is going on. Grief is also cumulative, so sometimes what seems like a 'minor' loss can tip us over the edge and our emotional response can feel unexpectedly intense. Understanding this can help.

Talking about grief

Sometimes talking about our grief can feel like you're burdening others, especially if it's a shared grief e.g. a family member. People are also often unsure what to say. Should they talk about the person who died, or the job you lost? This makes it feel unsafe to share, but I'll give you space to talk and feel, without any pressure to 'move on' and without giving advice. I know that grief is unique to each person - there is no 'right' or 'wrong' way to experience it and all your feelings are totally valid.

Grief doesn't disappear

We don't 'get over' grief and it will never leave us. This can be hard to hear, especially when we're in the midst of intense emotions. 

However, therapy - and exploring and expressing your feelings - can help the heaviness to become lighter. You can start to function better and reintegrate with life. I will support you through this, so that you find a way to reconnect and rebuild around the grief.

Do you try your hardest, but always feel you come up short? Are feelings of 'not good enough' eroding your self confidence? Or perhaps the words or actions of others have brought you down.

Feeling 'less than'

I understand your feelings of unworthiness and 'less than'. We will explore, together, where these feelings originated and what the impact is on your life; your choices, behaviours and relationships. They may come from a critical parent, childhood trauma, bullying at school or toxic relationships... or a myriad of other reasons. Once you understand the origins, I will help you reframe these inner beliefs, and build a better relationship with yourself.

Self compassion

How do you talk to and about yourself? Is it different to how you'd communicate with a friend? If so, we can focus on developing a more positive inner dialogue, and some self-compassion. Since these kinds of feelings are often deeply routed, it can feel hard to break the patterns and change the 'script', so you'll need self awareness and be open to practicing kindness towards yourself, even if it feels rather 'forced' at first.

When you start to recognise your unique abilities and be comfortable with the things you can't do or find more challenging, this will help you begin to feel 'good enough'. 

Building emotional resilience

 Low self-confidence can make you feel fragile in the face of criticism or failure, often leading to avoidance or giving up. I can help you build emotional resilience, so you can handle setbacks, which are a part of life, without letting them destroy your sense of self-worth.
With guidance, you can develop healthier coping strategies to face difficulties. Part of this is learning, and practicing, emotional regulation, accept your imperfections as part of you (and part of being human!), and you'll be able to bounce back from mistakes, rather than let them deplete your self confidence.